Mid-life women often get significant change thrust upon them.
Whether it’s divorce, the menopause, losing a job, financial difficulties or losing a loved one. And there’s a sense that time is running out.
What impresses me, is how many women deal with it, reinventing themselves and creating a new life.
Perhaps they need to build their confidence first before they can move on. Happily, there is help out there and most women will be willing to find it. Then they can start to make positive changes and to select what they desire.
As a fifty plus woman and having lived a little, you are likely to have a clearer idea of what you want from life. Or at least what you don’t want! And it may be that you are freed up from family commitments.
But one of the major obstacles to women reinventing themselves is the opinions of the people around them.
When I was in my forties, I had the idea of buying a property on the Kent coast and renting it out. I was living on my own in a rented house at the time and couldn’t really afford to buy the sort of house I wanted to live in. But everyone I mentioned the idea to – family and friends – all said, ‘oh, no, you don’t want to do that.’ Looking back I wished I had – it would have been a great investment.
Now in my fifties I’ve had the idea of buying a holiday home in France and yet again, family and friends have all said, ‘oh, no, you don’t want to do that.’ With the added reference about the UK leaving the EU.
One evening (before lock down) I had a drink with a friend who told me that she’s planning to do exactly this. Wonderful, I thought. She knows what she wants and she’s going for it. And now on my next trip to the Dordogne I plan to have a look around….
Life is short and you only get one shot at it.
The hardest part for many women is learning to be SELFISH and do what’s right for you.
And this doesn’t come easily to some. Women worry far too much about what others think of them. But that’s another blog post.
In my novel, The Long Marriage, Carol has change thrust upon her in her late fifties. She is expecting to live out her retirement years with her husband, Bryan, and enjoy more holidays, perhaps become a grandmother one day. But then suddenly her world is turned upside down. Bryan’s declaration changes everything. She is on her own.
Initially she is shocked, hurt and upset. Gradually she begins to realise that in the past she has always put her family first and her own needs and desires last. With the support of her best friend, Ellie, she starts making choices that work for her and so her story unfolds.
If you would like a sneak preview into the world of The Long Marriage, sign up for my Free Reads and I will sent you a monologue from Carol before the story begins.